I wonder if fighting could be a path to friendship. What If we give license to have arguments, and have a heart-to-heart chat at the beginning itself? Maybe this is a faster approach than small talk
I enjoyed your argument here Charu! When I think about successful relationships, a lot of times they are good because people are willing to work through differences instead of sweeping them under the rug. I think that’s a version of “fighting” that’s really a willingness to have a tough conversation because you love a person and trust them to give you space. I know the version I’m painting sounds rosier, but it’s something I struggle with! I like to avoid confrontation, but those who I can “fight” with (like my sister) are the people I can work through issues with and form deeper relationships. Great essay and perspective!
I enjoyed your argument here Charu! When I think about successful relationships, a lot of times they are good because people are willing to work through differences instead of sweeping them under the rug. I think that’s a version of “fighting” that’s really a willingness to have a tough conversation because you love a person and trust them to give you space. I know the version I’m painting sounds rosier, but it’s something I struggle with! I like to avoid confrontation, but those who I can “fight” with (like my sister) are the people I can work through issues with and form deeper relationships. Great essay and perspective!